.marry not a woman for her beauty..or for her wealth..but for her piety..or a man for his position and wealth, but for his virtue and religion...
..sometimes we agree that jodoh is something within His knowledge..we are taught since young, that God, in his Greatness have preordained three things when life is breathed into an embryo of 12 weeks..his bounty..his death and his jodoh...which could be once or several...and we are taught Qhada...that can be changed through sincere and ernest du'a..and those that cannot be changed..and all these are within His Knowledge..
..and when we parted, we say that it is the end of our jodoh..until he or she marries again..then we say that they still have jodoh..
.....even though Islam provides for polygamy, not either spouse can have more that one spouse at one time, Islam actually provides only for polygyny, only the husband having more than one wife simultaneously..for Islam does not allow polyandry, where the wife can have more than one husband at the same time..polyandry is haram in Islam..saying, 'what if I have more than one husband?' runs contrary to what is allowed in Islam.
..taking into account the above, to me, there is no such thing as true jodoh or false jodoh..although there is a tendency to think that the first marriage is your true jodoh..but if the husband takes on the second wife, then that second marriage as a false jodoh..or seeken jodoh..you seek, therefore you find..but whether 2, 3, 4 or 1, Islam provides for seeking out your jodoh..within certain guidelines..and it does not necessarily end with death..as divorce will also end a particular jodoh..until, perhaps, another takes over..
..inasmuch as there are those who lived and died without meeting their jodoh, there are those, like pakmat, who had several within their lifetime..again within His Knowledge and Consent...as all things are..
..but as to why me and not you, or why mine and not yours..that, I think, is not for us, as His Creations, to ask or wonder..for all things have His Hikmah..His Blessings..if we but care to ponder and reflect..