Thursday, 30 December 2010

..I beg your pardon..




..I used to tell my children that you cannot live on love and fresh air alone..you will need rice..and powdered milk..you cannot simply say to the grocer to supply you with rice and milk on the strength of your love..no, he would want something more tangible..like hard cash..children this days are always in a hurry..but in a time of instantaneous delivery, how not to blame them?..we sat a pace that scorches the asphalt..and we told them to slow down, to hold on..

..as in marriages..you got to work to get that rose garden going..what more if you marry with you heart..against parental advice..unlike the song by the Beatles, some things just could not be work out. for 'love grows old and waxes cold'...and when it faded away, you are left with your spoils of war..namely two precocious and innocent kids.. and when you came with them trailing, what is a father and grandfather to say or do..?..except to take them into his arms and try not to see the tears welling in your eyes?...

..I wished I could say, I told you so..but I could not..marriage is one big, unending learning curve, girl....but if it is against a wall that you have backed yourself into...then, maybe, it is time you fight back...

8 comments:

Wan Sharif said...

Ah.. to be young...
to marry with your heart..
love the part where you wrote "got to work to get that rose garden going".. and "maybe, it is time you fight back...
Here is wishing you a better year ahead.. and hopefully I will get to hear that Haj thingy from you..
May Allah bless you and yours.. Sokmo

pakmat said...

..why, thank you, abang wan..lets hope i make it this time..

Tisa Fahmy said...

I know what you're talking about...I really do! And how I wish you could say "I told you so!" too...
But if it is for the better, we shouldn't stop her from doing so. She's big enough to decide..I will support her in whatever obsticle
..coz I love my family..

goodaspirin said...

A fatherly advice. Spoken from the heart.

goodaspirin said...

A fatherly advice. Spoken from the heart.

Sharifah Rashidah bt. Syed Ahmad said...

Love reading your thoughts, Pak Mat. You really have a way with words.

Can't agree with u more..we surely can't stop worrying about our kids, can we? No matter how much they have grown and how mature they have become, they are constantly in our minds. And watching them paying for their own decisions is really heart wrenching....

so long, Pak Mat...

ismi said...

we parents always wana say i told u so..but we cant possibly leave them in a mess..who else will give them unconditional support but the never stopped loving parents :)

sot said...

The phrase 'cinta itu buta' is not for nothing. When the two human is in love, they see nothing but only good things. I agree as parent we need to talk sense to the kids since the beginning. Everything is not gonna be ok with love alone. Financial strength can buy you stuff along the way. But let them experience it themselves...we did and come tru with flying colors what?