Sunday, 17 June 2012

..a crab of a father..

..you know the saying about crabs trying to teach their young crablets to walk straight?....well, as a father I am a crab....on most counts, I am guilty of asking my children not to do the things that I have done..for like most fathers, I want them to be better than me...and to avoid the mistakes that I have made...and so, I told my sons not to smoke...and they countered by saying that I was a heavy smoker my self..yes, I was, it has not done me any good except to wheeze in my old age...I told them not to miss their daily solat..and they say, papa started praying only in his late years..and I said, yes, and it has not done me any good, either...I told them to be choosy about choosing life partners..and they say papa was a polygamist..and I say, I do not want you to be one...I told the girls not to go after married men..and they say mama married one...it hit me that I have done all those things that I asked them not to..I am that proverbial crab...and this old, wheezing crab realised that no matter how much he loved his children, there is a limit to his exhortations...life is not about not doing this and not doing that...life is about making mistakes and learning from it...sometimes its about learning from others mistakes...for a father will continue loving his children no matter the mistakes...

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12 comments:

Anonymous said...

When we admit our own shortcomings, we take the power away from other people to use this against us.

Jitraman. KL

pakmat said...

..yes, jitraman..yes...and I hope your keeping fine..:)

Myra said...

Mat Mat, My dad was a crappy crab...but he's my 'crappy dad' and i love him dearly..he pass away last year not long after Father's day so this time of year is difficult for me.

Granny Hani said...

Happy fathers day pak mat...

pakmat said...

..salam Myra..
...and may he be blessed and among those gathered in jannah...and I am always of the mind that no matter how much we loved our dad, he loved us more..

..thank you, Granny Hani..it should also be Happy grandparents Day...for parents are grander with children of their children...:)

Sir Pök Déng said...

I enjoy reading your polygamous mayhem posts, sir.

pakmat said...

..polygamic mayhem?..which goes to show that some men never learned...

http://schooloftots.blogspot.com said...

I like crab
Gulai crab that is..

Pak Mat, you have done great as a crab. Worry no more.

Pak Zawi said...

Tatak,
Maybe we should be more careful when advising our children and give them detailed reasons why they must not do what we did which we have discovered to be the wrong thing to do. I bet they will stand to reasons.

pakmat said...

..schooloftots..I like it, too..especially with thick curry and toast...all the best to you, sot..

..salam pakzawi..welcome back from your travels..envy you..

.. maybe I should, but seeing that my children knows all of my intimate details, not much help that would do..:)..

Anonymous said...

nice posting.. thanks for sharing.

Bilal Halil said...

Well said my dear brother well said !